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Identity, Affirmation, Boundaries

(Kathy Gabler) Self-image, self-worth and self-government cannot be determined by your IQ or strengths or looks or successes or skills, but neither are they determined by experiences or failures or opinions or lies.  The thing that outranks all of that is your relationship with the Father and guaranteed daughtership or sonship.  Identity, affirmation and boundaries are powerfully established through that relationship.
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Free To Walk In Destiny

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Having  a cracked self-image, a shattered self-worth or a failed self-government, does not void our Father’s love or intent, nor His good plans for us!  If we learn to think in our hearts like that, that truth will free us up to walk in destiny and keep us from giving up before we become all God had in mind that we were born to be.  Father, may my life glorify you to the fullest extent.  Let me see me as You see me.  Cause me to value as You value.  Grace me to live honoring Your boundaries for my life.  May I live in the truth and may it be not only my freedom, but also my legacy.

(This is the last excerpt from Kathy’s article “Seeing Us The Way God Sees Us—Part 2“ which was published in SEEC Magazine [Marty and Kathy’s ministry magazine]. More excerpts will be posted Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. Previous excerpts may be read by scrolling down this page.)


Marty and Kathy’s 8th Annual Conference
Kingdom Equipping Congress 2015
March 4-6, 2015
Worship, Prophetic Ministry, Impartation Service
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Relationship With The Father

Self-image, self-worth and self-government cannot be determined by your IQ or strengths or looks or successes or skills, but neither are they determined by experiences or failures or opinions or lies.  The thing that outranks all of that is your relationship with the Father and guaranteed FatherSondaughtership or sonship.  Identity, affirmation and boundaries are powerfully established through that relationship.  Consider David.  Even when his self-government completely crashed, it did not kill his self-image, nor did it steal his self-worth.  Ding dong!   If you refused to take care of your duties and obligations as a God-appointed leader of a nation while taking time out to plot murder, so you can commit adultery and end up with a child out of that affair, wouldn’t that crack your mirror and change the way you see yourself?  Well, it didn’t seem to faze David, but I’m pretty sure the whole nation had a cracked view of David, especially when Nathan the prophet, publicly exposed all this. (2 Sam 12)  Most people would have crawled in a hole to eat worms and die, but David took personal responsibility and owned his mess.  That positioned him to repent (vs. 13). He didn’t act like Adam and try to hide after he sinned.  Neither did he spend the rest of his life cowering as unworthy or continually seeking reassurance that God still accepted him.  No, in fact, after he repented, he begged God to change His plan and spare the child born out of adultery.  Who would have the nerve to ask God for mercy at this point?  Even after his mirror cracked publicly, David didn’t allow condemnation to seep in the cracks.  It wasn’t that he was a simple-minded optimist, nor was he thinking in terms of deserving this, he  was  simply convinced God loved him.  None of David’s mess-ups ever got bigger to him than God.  He remained “a man after God’s own heart,” who continued to see himself as a son just like God did. That’s relationship.  That’s a strong family bond and some awesome sonship!
(This is the seventh excerpt from Kathy’s article “Seeing Us The Way God Sees Us—Part 2“ which was published in SEEC Magazine [Marty and Kathy’s ministry magazine]. More excerpts will be posted Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. Previous excerpts may be read by scrolling down this page.)


Conference March 4-6, 2015
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https://martygabler.com/ctk-conference/

 


God Hasn’t Changed His Mind About You

I know a lady that was raised on the church bench.  She had such a heart for God when she was young, that she Walkingtruly considered marrying a minister.  She is wired primarily eagle, who tends to require perfection in self.  She is also ox, wanting no conflict, and she has a motivational gift of serving as well.  She went right from high school to being a secretary.  As choices flowed in her life, she married young and went through two divorces.  Being a conscientious church girl, she saw herself as disqualified and a failure.  She struggled with thinking that her potential and purpose were lost.  For years, her self-image and self-worth were shaken.  However, even with those two elements shaken, she was one of those exceptional people that had enough strength of character not to allow her self-government to take a dive.  She remained diligent in her career and rose to executive secretary.  After dealing with taunting questions like “Who am I now?   Why am I here now? (since I’ve messed up so badly),” she came to the realization that God had not changed His mind about His original intent for her and her gifts and calling were still intact.  Today, she has overcome and is an awesome intercessor, just as she was originally intended to be.  She realizes now that even her time as a secretary was actually intercessory in nature, building bridges between problems and their resolve.  She outgrew her feelings of unworthiness to even allow the Holy Spirit to stir gifts in her of discernment and prophetic proclamation.
(This is the fifth excerpt from Kathy’s article “Seeing Us The Way God Sees Us—Part 2“ which was published in SEEC Magazine [Marty and Kathy’s ministry magazine]. More excerpts will be posted Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. Previous excerpts may be read by scrolling down this page.)
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Character To Keep You

boundariesThe 3rd question God asked Adam was if he’d eaten of the tree.  God wasn’t looking for information of course.  He was helping Adam realize the point of origin of this earthquake that cracked his self-image and damaged his self-worth was when he defied the boundaries.  If anyone ever feels like God sets boundaries to demean or be unjust or cruel, they need some vitamin “G” as in “G”row up!  He sets boundaries wisely to set the stage for the truest expression of commitment, respect and honor in a lifetime.  It takes self-government to work within boundaries and that self-government develops maturity and character.  Character is a matter of righteous values and moral strength.  Character is essential to taste true fulfillment in your lifetime.  It will take Character to keep you wherever purpose takes you.  I’ve known really gifted and skilled people who lost everything because they did not have the self-government and character to honor boundaries and protocol in relationships or career or finances or health.

(This is the second excerpt from Kathy’s article “Seeing Us The Way God Sees Us—Part 2“ which was published in SEEC Magazine [Marty and Kathy’s ministry magazine]. More excerpts will be posted Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. Previous excerpts may be read by scrolling down this page.) 


Healthy Self-Image

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Healthy Self-Image:

Is not about fantasy or hype or superiority or self-focus; is not about looking in the mirror and thinking you are wonderful, beautiful or nearly perfect. Healthy self-image is learning who you are, your assets and liabilities, strengths and flaws and training yourself to override them as necessary and make them work. It is knowing you have presence and meaning in life.—Kathy Gabler


Don’t Doubt Your Worth

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The second thing Satan said to Jesus was,   “Since you are God’s Son, jump.”  That meant, prove your Father values You and values the purpose in You.  However, God had publicly affirmed Jesus when He said, “This is My beloved Son in whom I’m well pleased.”  So, Satan couldn’t make Jesus test His own affirmation and worth because Satan couldn’t make Him doubt it.  Many people grow up never being affirmed.  No authority figure or nurturer or friend ever takes the time to declare their worth and affirm them.  That is sad, but it does not have to be terminal.  If you haven’t had the affirmation needed to have a solid sense of self-worth, you can still decide to be a victim of that and never get where you were born to go, or you can overcome it.

(This is the eleventh excerpt from Kathy’s article “Seeing Us The Way God Sees Us” which was published in SEEC Magazine. Excerpts will be posted Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. Previous excerpts may be read by scrolling down this page. The audio CD of this message is entitled “Free To Be.”)


Key To Sound Identity

We can see God addressing the three-legged design of basic human needs in the three questions He asked Adam: 

Identity1> The first question was, “Adam where are you?”  Where is the identity that had us as Father-to-son, face-to-face, yesterday, but today has you hiding?  After Adam ate of the tree, when he looked at himself, his mirror was cracked.  He was fragmented and his self-image was scarred.  If you think that mess-ups in your life can de-daughter or de-son you, your identity is too fragile, and it is not rooted in relationship with your Heavenly Father.  The first shot the devil took in the wilderness was at Jesus’ identity when he said, “If you are God’s Son.”  Jesus was so confident of His identity and unshakeable relationship with the Father that Satan couldn’t tempt Him to even try to prove it by turning stones to bread.  The key to sound identity is that it be rooted in relationship with God.

(This is the ninth excerpt from Kathy’s article “Seeing Us The Way God Sees Us” which was published in SEEC Magazine. Excerpts will be posted Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. Previous excerpts may be read by scrolling down this page.)


Someone Else Is Aware

cat mirrorWhether we are aware we function around this three-legged design of basic human needs or not, our adversary, the devil, is very aware.   So when he comes to steal or kill or destroy, he will target either self-image or self-worth or self-government.  He knows any one of the three can undermine the other two.  Why does he know this, because he’s been practicing since the garden.  When he seduced Eve and Adam and they failed in self-government, their self-image and self-worth crumbled also.

(This is the eighth excerpt from Kathy’s article “Seeing Us The Way God Sees Us” which was published in SEEC Magazine. Excerpts will be posted Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. Previous excerpts may be read by scrolling down this page.)


“He is putting gates in your fences.”
In this 3min. audio file, Kathy Gabler brings an encouraging word.
http://martygabler.podomatic.com/entry/2013-09-04T13_14_04-07_00


A Cracked Reflection

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None of us outgrow the need for identity, affirmation or boundaries.  If  they are  met, they help us to be healthy mentally, emotionally, physically and relationally.  If they are not met, they set us up for sabotage.  Since none of us had a perfect family life growing up, we have all been sabotaged to some degree and had conflicts with self-image that left our self-worth in doubt, or vice versa.  And we have all faced embarrassment or failure regarding our self-government.  So, it is no private scar since everyone’s mirror (self-image) gets whacked in life.  Sometimes it is even our own doing; but how we respond after the fact is the crucial matter.  If we continue to only look at a cracked reflection, a marred, fragmented person; that will keep us from agreeing with the way God sees us and keep us from lining up with God’s intentions for our life and future.

(This is the seventh excerpt from Kathy’s article “Seeing Us The Way God Sees Us” which was published in SEEC Magazine. Excerpts will be posted Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. Previous excerpts may be read by scrolling down this page.)


Identity And Self-Image

So Let’s come to some insight on how to see ourselves as God does, starting with awareness of three basic needs common to all of us.  These needs may adjust and morph as we mature, but they don’t go away.  The first is identity.  We all need a sense of self.  Identity is who you see young woman looking into a mirrorwhen you look in the mirror.  Identity includes the way you process and think, the way you react to life, the things that you hold important and how you express your feelings.  Part of your identity is in your “wiring” or personality.  We are born with some combination of the four basic personalities, which I will label as lion, eagle, man and ox (Lance Wallnau).  A “lion” is fast paced and has a drive to get results.  An “eagle” is slow paced and gets up in the morning to get their task list perfectly completed at their own pace.  The “man” personality is a fast paced, people-person whose identity includes relating with others.  The “ox” person is slow paced and finds identity in facilitating others.  The way we view relationships and the way we invest in relationships are all part of our identity.  Since our identity is one side of a coin and self-image is the other, a healthy sense of identity yields a healthy self-image.

(This is the fourth excerpt from Kathy’s article “Seeing Us The Way God Sees Us” which was published in SEEC Magazine. Excerpts will be posted Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. Previous excerpts may be read by scrolling down this page.)