Identity, Affirmation and Boundaries

KATHY GABLER—None of us outgrow the need for identity, affirmation or boundaries.  If  they are  met, they help us to be healthy mentally, emotionally, physically and relationally.  If they are not met, they set us up for sabotage.  Since none of us had a perfect family life growing up, we have all been sabotaged to some degree and had conflicts with self-image that left our self-worth in doubt, or vice versa.  And we have all faced embarrassment or failure regarding our self-government.  So, it is no private scar since everyone’s mirror (self-image) gets whacked in life.  Sometimes it is even our own doing; but how we respond after the fact is the crucial matter.  If we continue to only look at a cracked reflection, a marred, fragmented person; that will keep us from agreeing with the way God sees us and keep us from lining up with God’s intentions for our life and future.